Everybody Promenade...

Prom is short for promenade which means "a march of all the guests at the opening of a ball" (American Heritage Dictionary). Long gone are the days of marching in step to the sounds of the orchestra, and long gone are the days of the waltz, the foxtrot, the two step, and the box step. On Friday night, May 12th I chaparoned the high school prom as I have done most of my adult life, either in the role of Young Life leader, or now, teacher. I have noticed some things over the years. These high schoolers did no marching that was discernable. They did "bump and grind". For those unfamiliar with that term, I will attempt to explain. Bumping and grinding is considered by those who partake as a form of dancing. Nothing could be farther from the truth. Bumping and grinding requires one "dancing" partner (usually the female) to turn from facing her partner to facing out into the crowd but still staying in close proximity to the male. While the music thumps along, the couple basically bounces up and down to the beat while being somewhat suggestive in their movements. That is not dancing...it's more like doing squat-thrusts without the benefit of having a track meet to run in. I have a theory...

I think that "dancing" in such a manner keeps the couple from actually having to communicate with each other, and it gives the added bonus of the couple being able to check out all the other people on the dance floor without making eye contact with their dance partner. Think about it. Guys usually claim to hate dancing, and they live for the slow dances where they assume the position where the girl sort of hangs off the guy's neck like a loosened necktie while they make slow circles with a shuffling step. Bumping and grinding lets guys back into the fast dance without the embarrassment of having to go it alone, and besides the obvious Freudian imagery produced by this type of interaction, it gives the couple an intimate look without the intimacy of the conversation they are terrified to initiate.

My coveted role at this year's prom was to monitor said dancing and attempt to separate any over zealous participants. I arrived around 9pm, by 9:30pm the dance floor had reached a steamy 100 degrees fahrenheit. I did my best to separate my high school friends with humor as opposed to force. Clearly, I was not going to get anywhere dishing out idle threats. Mostly I would approach a couple and ask the guy to face his date and then ask him if he thought she was looking good this evening. The guy always answered in the affirmative. Then I would point out that she probably went to a lot of trouble to look that way and that he should spend more time looking at her face rather than the back of her head. The couple usually chuckled and said that they would.I know that as soon as I was out of their eye line they more than likely returned to the previously described stance, but I was hoping my approach at the very least gave them something to think about.

I really do like aspects of the prom. It is nice to see the kids all dressed up. The guys looking so handsome in their suits and tuxes. Some of them even shaved. More than one of the guys this year went out and bought a brand new baseball cap to match their outfit. The girls look like beauty pageant contestants, all of them. There are always those great renagade kids who create their own look and just cut loose from the chains of social norms, and there are those who say, "the heck with a date, I'm here for the dancing".

So, the prom will march on. Hopefully, bumping and grinding will lose its popularity, but until then, I'll root for the kids who show up to dance and try my best to keep them looking in the right direction.





Kyle, one of my students, with his date. Kyle restored this 1947 Willy Truck after it was pulled out of Phinizy Swamp! Way to go Kyle! Sorry, no pictures of the "dancing". I want to keep this blog PG...OK, PG-13!